Do you always get what you’re looking for when it comes to dating?

This might be hard for many people to hear, but I’m beginning to think that in the end, you get what you ask for in your search for a partner.

You are not in control of your partner's actions, but you are in control of who you pick to go out with — most of the time. I understand that some people literally don’t have a choice.

If you pick a person who’s perfect then that’s a reflection of you, but there is some luck as well, don’t get me wrong. If you’re always bouncing around from toxic person to toxic person, then it’s again, a reflection of you.

Toxic people attract other toxic people, and whilst they say they don’t want to have another toxic relationship, their track record says different. At some point, you have to take responsibility for who you date.

Some people make themselves easy to take advantage of and some people put up so much of a barrier that they don’t end up with anyone. Where you live factors in as well and you can control that too.

It puts the ball in your court

You might think that dating is up in the air but it’s all down to you. People like to think it’s impossible to meet the one — or a one, but you can if you look hard enough and are intentional.