Empty gestures are not a good way to make friends

They say that it’s harder to make friends as an adult, and it is, but I think part of the reason is that a lot of people have never known how to make friends.

As a young person, you’re forced to be around people so naturally you’re going to make friends with at least 1 person out of situation.

As an adult, you’re around fewer people so there is less of a chance of that happening. People try and force it through work and hobbies but it makes no difference if you don’t know how to make friends.

Making friends is a skill, and like any other skill, it has to be constantly nurtured if you want to be good at it.

Doing someone a favour without asking

Doing someone a favour for you without you needing to ask them seems nice — on TV anyway. In real life, it’s very presumptive and it puts you in an awkward position.

For example, if the person you did a favour for wanted that thing done in a specific way, you’ve now ruined that for them. Or you may have done a bad job because you’re not good at whatever it is you’ve done.

Now they have to go back and clean up your mess and they can’t be mad at you because your heart was in the right place allegedly.