How much can you change your partner?

Hello Medium, I am back. Not in full capacity, but there will still be content from myself. I think I will split it between Substack and Medium. Basically, all workplace content will go on my Substack, and everything else will go here. There are reasons that I will get into on another post.

This post is about people who aim to change their partner or a potential partner so they can become the ideal partner, and what comes of that. I’ve not had many people try and change me, I think people upon meeting me realise that it’s futile.

I am who I am and I won’t compromise that for anyone. It’s not fair on me and it’s not something that I’m capable of doing. These people realise that I get sick of their bullshit very early on and get demoralised.

But some people do change for their partner, and they change a lot. Some people seek out someone they can change so they can have an ideal partner they can control. Of course, that’s not sustainable unless this person is content with not being their own person, and those people do exist.

Wanting to change someone to suit you is delusional

In order to be in a relationship there has to be an element of change for both parties, it’s only natural — and fair. You have another person in your life and you need to…