How the way you look affects what others expect of you in life

The Ordinary Man
4 min readMar 11, 2024

Being black, I know how much what you look like affects how others see you in the world, but it’s more than that. Look plays a major part in life to the point it’s hard not to consider it before you leave the house every day.

If you’re like myself and you don’t want to play the social game then you have to accept what comes with that. If you’re going to look how you want to look then you’re going to have to accept the treatment that comes with that.

I’m still working on it.

In an ideal world, we should be able to look however we want and not have to think twice about it, but we don’t live in an ideal world. This is something I think we all forget at times.

People put you in a box

You’ll notice pretty early in your life that people will put you in a box based on what you look like, and even after some people meet you and get to know you they’ll continue to do this. It’s as if your personality doesn’t register with them and they’re completely blinded by their prejudice.

You’re going to have expectations put on your shoulders, dumb expectations, expectations that won’t make any sense to you. But don’t you dare try and avoid them or you’re going to get hostility. You’re going to have to fight just to…

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The Ordinary Man
The Ordinary Man

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