I can see you’re flirting, I’m just not interested

My third post in a row about women, I don’t think I’ll have any female followers left at this rate.

There is this habit I’ve noticed in women that when they flirt with you and you don’t flirt back they assume that you didn’t notice them flirting. This is true sometimes, but not all of the time. I’m not interested in every girl that I meet, unfortunately.

When a girl doesn’t flirt back with a guy he usually just assumes he’s failed — or he’ll call her stuck up and get defensive.

I see that you’re flirting and I’m keeping you at arm’s length. It doesn’t matter how much you flick your hair or bat your eyelids I’m not interested.

It’s a coping mechanism

If someone is not interested in you it’s hard to accept, believe me, as a man I’ve had to go through this a lot. I’ve pursued women and they’ve rejected me for one reason or another, and they don’t always do it in the nicest way.

You can blame them but if you actually want to find a partner you’ll have to accept responsibility for being rejected. No one is obligated to like you.

Telling yourself “he didn’t notice” isn’t helpful. It’s even worse when their friends back them up to make them feel better. Lies cover pain but they don’t solve problems.