If you’re 40 and you still love humanity then you haven’t learnt a thing

Do you ever think about all your bad interactions with people and realise how much they’ve gone out of their way to be a dick?

I have a saying:

“If you’re not a socialist at 20 then you have no heart.”

“If you’re not a capitalist when you’re 30 then you have no brain.”

“If you love humanity at 40 then you haven’t learnt a thing.”

I don’t hate all humans, I just understand and accept were very flawed, but that doesn’t mean that I have to accept the shit people throw at me. Whilst I love a few people, and like a few more, I understand that most people would hurt me if given a chance to better themselves and get away with it.

Do you think that the conscience stops people from hurting each other? Sometimes. But other times it's consequences that do it. Think about all the pain you and others are caused when the people causing it can get away with it.

I’m writing this because of a small interaction I had today. It got me thinking about people in general, and why I’ve always resented them. When people tell me that people are good it’s always felt like gaslighting. People are good yet they try so hard to cause pain. I myself have done this when I was young and didn’t think.

A guy insulted me at my new job for no reason. It wasn’t the biggest deal in the world and what he said didn’t offend me. What he said isn’t true and was completely prejudiced. What offended me was how far out of his way he went to do it. Most of the time the offence doesn’t offend me it’s the motivation behind the offence. The hatred, the xenophobia, the petty jealousy, the shallow outlook.

I was in the kitchen at work sitting at a table by myself looking at something on my phone, a few other people were doing this too. This guy walks past me as did many others ( I was sitting near the entrance) and I didn’t even see him, I heard him though.

He was saying to someone I looked stuck up because apparently it’s rude to mind your own business and not bother people?

He came over and sat with me. At first, he seemed quite nice, but then he randomly insulted me and mockingly laughed in my face.

Guess what, he was from up north.

For those of you that have been following me for a while, you’ll know I have lived up north and hated it with a burning passion. The people there were some of the least open and accepting I’ve ever met. This guy was more of the same.

It’s no surprise that he was mad at me. Northerners are entitled and think random strangers should speak to them no matter what they’re doing. If you don’t speak to them then they label you stuck up. Most southerners don’t speak to randoms so this causes a cultural clash.

He told me that I could have passed for a Londoner as I looked stuck up, and he also laughed in my face mockingly at times when I spoke to him. He then went on to shit on where he currently lived and the people from there and people from the south in general — oh the irony.

He walked past me and made a prejudiced assessment based on an ignorant belief about people, this type of shit was part of the reason I left the north. I dress like anyone else at that company and I don’t see how looking at my phone on my lunch break is a big deal.

What he said was minor, It was just weird that he went out of his way to sit with me, just so he could passive-aggressively insult me. It scares me how you can damage someone's ego by doing literally nothing. This has happened to me before and people have responded in harsh ways.

This moment is not a big deal it’s just what I hate about people. Be a dick in the heat of the moment and I understand, but go out of your way to be rude and it says a lot about you, no matter how small.

I see this happen all the time. People plan to be horrible to others in very extreme ways sometimes. Hurt people hurt people, but I don’t give a fuck, grow up and leave others alone, they don’t need to hurt too.

This story is about not ruining people's day for no reason. Why would you want to be responsible for that? Wouldn’t you want to be known as the person who brings happiness to others?

This moment is small and I’ll forget about it in no time, but if you have enough of these types of interactions then I can see why a person would get fed up with humanity.