The awkward dynamic of male-female friendships

I’ve not had many female friends in my life and I’ve not had any that have lasted a significant period of time. It’s not because I can’t hang out with women or because I don’t like women, it’s because friendships with the opposite gender can be complicated at times.

Sometimes I do wonder if men and women can genuinely be friends with 100% zero attraction from both sides or if that’s only a lie we tell ourselves. But so many people claim to do it, so that can’t be true.

I saw a video on Instagram a little while ago where a woman said a man with no female friends is a red flag. Of course, she got a lot of flack but there were just as many people agreeing with her. But personally, I think there are legitimate reasons why a man might have no female friends. All you have to do to dismiss this point it look at circumstances.

My friendships almost always start with attraction

If I look back through all of my friendships with women pretty much all of them started through attraction from one party. My most recent one was FIC, I admired her from a distance for a while before we spoke. I started speaking to her with the intention to ask her out, but we weren’t a good fit so we became “friends”.