When a relationship has an expiry date

Sometimes you start a relationship with someone and you don’t know what will happen in the future, you don’t think about it. Sometimes you meet someone and you know that you’re going to be in each other's lives forever.

But then there are relationships where you know that down the line that it’s not going to work out for whatever reason. It’s not sustainable.

As I get older I get much better at seeing this. I know with some people that I’m going to move on from them or they’re going to move on from me. I don't know how it’s going to happen or when, but I know this relationship has an expiry date.

Does the feeling it’s going to end contribute to its ending?

My first thought when I noticed this was “Is it me?”. What I mean by this is, is it me who is subconsciously ending relationships as I don’t want them to last? Sometimes I think this is true, but not for all relationships.

There are times when I hang out with people and it’s ok, but something is off and I can feel like we’re on different wavelengths. I think I can sometimes sabotage those relationships as I don’t want to be in them. These people do or say weird shit that makes me feel uncomfortable or makes me question their worldview.