When the stars align… but you’re not compatible

As I have another awkward fallout with a woman at work, I find myself thinking about my requirements for a partner. She’s good looking to be fair, she’s nice, she has a good job, and she doesn’t seem arrogant, but speaking to her is pure agony.

It’s like Joey and Rachel on Friends. It should be right in theory, but we’re not compatible at all, everything feels unnatural. I’ve never wanted to speak to a woman so good-looking who’s nice, less.

She doesn’t like me anymore but there are other options in the office if I choose. I don’t think she ever did like me, I think she liked the idea of me. The first thing that put me off was her mindset. She’s not a bad person from what I know, she’s just not on my wavelength and that was immediately obvious.

How can you define your own wavelength? It’s hard to put into words and explain to someone but when you know you know. Some people will try to force compatibility by faking it, as the woman from work did. But that makes things even more awkward as I’m not playing along.

I can’t even flirt with this woman and I begin asking myself why she’s single.

The must-haves

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