When you make your partner boring but then complain that they’re boring

This is more about forcing your partner to be a certain thing and then complaining when they become that thing. Boring is just an example of this. People consciously or subconsciously try to make people become certain things, but they may not always like the outcome.

Most people don’t know what they want. They think they want a certain life and when they get it, they realise the truth. Sometimes it involves other people and they have to suffer through this person's delusions.

Like you’ll get a person who wants their partner to quit being a separate entity by gaslighting them into quitting all their hobbies and manipulating them into not seeing their friends. They want this person to spend all of their time with them, and they want to know everything about them.

Then the same people will hate that this person has become a shell of themselves and has nothing interesting to say anymore. What makes it worse is that they blame the other person for this. They were only trying to be what you wanted them to be and now they’re getting shit for it.

Being a project

Some people will see you as a project and their goal through the entire time they’re dating you is to turn you into the person of their delusions. I’ve been in…