Why I get accused of being gay

The Ordinary Man
5 min readFeb 17, 2024

I’ve been accused of being gay a few times in my life, and I’ve begun to realise that this is a part of life and it happens from time to time. There is nothing wrong with being gay, but I hate the accusations as a straight man because of where they come from.

My most recent accusation was from my manager and it was because I wasn’t interested in giving her any attention (the entire reason she hired me). She embarrassed me in front of the entire team with her accusations.

I don’t get accused a lot nowadays but I do see a clear theme within the accusations. It normally comes down to bitterness from women who want my attention or men who are jealous of me. There are some other factors too, I am a handsome man and some people probably want it to be true.

The jealousy of men

When a man doesn’t like or understand another man they may start to accuse him of being sus. Why might a guy not like another man? It’s usually due to intimidation and jealousy in my experience, and when I say this I mean outside of the other person's personality and not getting along.

Some guys will look at me and I see the hate in their eyes. They’re jealous because women actually like me and I’m not invisible to them. So in order to tear me down they’ll throw out that I must be gay.

I used to hang out with a dude who accused me of being gay due to the fact he was in the closet. He pressed so hard trying to convince my other mates that I was gay but then I put 2 + 2 together. He himself was always a bit sus, well, very overtly sus and he hid it with humour, but this confirmed it. He’s totally gay, and he’s not the type to ever come out either. I wonder what he’s doing now.

The bitterness of women

When women think you’re attractive they want your attention, it gives them the validation that they live for. They’ll tell you otherwise but when you starve them of attention most of them fall apart.